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Self Care Level Three

This level is all about maintenance. Once you get the help you need and confront the concerns which were causing more pain or stress in your life, you need to figure out how to maintain a care for yourself as well as recognize any relapse, setback, or more negative days are not a negative reflection on you, nor does it mean you must start over.

It is important to remember to be patient with yourself. You will have good days and bad days, horrible days and wonderful days. Just remember to take care of yourself and do what you can to get you through those tough times.

Reference Previous Levels

When you need to calm down, you are able to return to the activities listed in level one. They are good for helping calm the mind and mending temporary emotions. Those activities also help with grounding and centering, allowing you to return to the present moment.

If you begin to feel in crisis again or encounter new triggers or a new traumatic event, you are also free to return to level two. Returning to receive more professional help is completely okay. If you find that someone new who has come into your life has turned out to be negative, you may need to evaluate whether to remove them from your life as well.

That which is done within the previous levels can always be returned to if necessary. I feel they are more organized in an order that is effective the first time around and in relation to intensity and complexity. These are not strict guidelines to follow or that can be only done one way. Everyone’s mind is different and will need a different course of action.

Check In With Yourself

After you get into a better emotional or physical state, it is still important to check in and try to check in often. There will still be some bad days along the way as well as some good days. Make sure not to ignore the bad days because you are “supposed to be better now”. Recovery in any form is not a straight line.

Remain patient with yourself and understand that it is okay to have a bad day. Recognize the day and recognize what is happening. Do not degrade or punish yourself for having a bad time. It is what comes with living. But with making sure to check in, you will make sure to be aware of how you are feeling and what is going on during that time.

I would recommend trying to check in with yourself at least once a day. This may be a moment before bed or in the middle of the day when you have a free moment. You can either write this down, meditate, or simply take a moment to think to yourself.

Here is a couple things you can ask yourself when you check in:

  • How are you feeling?
  • What has occurred today?
  • What are some of the most common thoughts you have had today?
  • What were you able to do or accomplish today? (And it is okay if it was only waking up or basic necessities, remember to not judge yourself for doing any less)
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Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional. If you are in extreme crisis please call your local emergency services or your local suicide hotline. This site is a collection of research and resources to help you.